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3 Words to Edit in your Vocabulary

September 25, 2017

Words have power.

So often we are unaware of our internal “mind chatter” and the effect it has on our emotions, energy, and progression. We can become our biggest stumbling block. Good news! It’s never too late to change and, again, it starts with a thought.

You must learn a new way to think before you can master a new way to be.
-Marianne Williamson

Focus on clearing out the mind clutter and replacing it with strong, positive words to create uplifting thoughts and energy.

Send out those RAS spies with a very detailed mission. They will obey your every command. Begin by paying attention to what your internal dialogue is saying. Is it kind, true, or necessary? No? Kick it to the curb and put out the No Vacancy sign.

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There are three words we use daily, if not hourly, piling on negative mental energy.  I've been keeping an eye on them in my vocabulary and have decided to edit or eradicate them.  

1.  Trial - as in adversity or struggle.  Example:  "I'm going through a really tough trial right now."  Can you feel the weight immediately just by saying or reading it?  Doom and dread pressing on the mind?  Have you heard, "I'm grateful for my trials because of what I have learned."  There is a better way.    

  • Edit - Eradicate all three words - trial, adversity, struggle - and replace with "Challenge".  We can see ourselves accepting a challenge, rising to the occasion, and successfully completing it.  Now there is a positive spin fueling our attitude and ability to cope.  We are in charge of our emotions, thoughts, and not helpless victims of circumstance or consequence. 

2.  Just - as in not enough.  Example:  "I'm just a mom."  Start looking for this word and the context in which it is used.  Will it ever be positive?  (NOTE:  a close cousin is "always".)
  • Edit - Eliminate it completely.  Whatever words come after it will suddenly take on more power.  I AM.  We WILL.  You ARE . . . enough.  Try it.  It's amazing.

3.  But - as in "wait a minute".  Example:  "I agree with that, but . . ."  Can you think of an instance where the use of the word but does not negate what came before?  It's a defensive word and many times gives the impression of not listening to understand and jumping in with an agenda.  (I almost used the word but in that sentence.  Sneaky little guy :) 
  • Edit - Exchange it for the words "and yet".  Using these new words gives equal weight to both values being expressed.  It's a powerful twist in your communication with others.

Learn to recognize unproductive and self-sabotaging thoughts and beliefs.  Don't believe everything you think.  Challenge your mind chatter.  There are plenty of other great things to occupy your space.

Thanks for listening!  I enjoy good company.


  1. So did you see how many times I used the word "but" in the Lemon Cake post? Sorry about that, but. . .


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