Learning to Be Giving

October 28, 2018

Have you ever watched how you and those in your close relationships give of themselves?  It could be as simple as paying attention to their Love Language.  

Do they like to give and receive: 
  1. Words of Affirmation
  2. Quality Time 
  3. Gifts
  4. Acts of Service
  5. Physical Touch
[Note:  Quality time and Acts of Service are separate.]

There's a whole fascinating book, The Five Love Languages, written about this topic.  Check it out, literally, from the library and it might be the missing link you are looking for in any relationship.

It's truly a talent to always be lifting others up through compliments and reassuring words.  You remember Wilbur the Pig's friend, Charlotte, right?  How rare it is to find someone who can stay present in the moment, making it last as long as needed.  We need more of that language.  Do you know someone who seems so naturally good at giving gifts?  I love those people.  What would the world be like without the generous and selfless acts of service?  Dreary, dull, empty and evil.  Who are you thinking of right now that knows how to give warm, hearty hugs?  Thank goodness for them.

Being new to a neighborhood and to a church congregation, I decided  I could get to know people and multi-task at the same time.  Neighbors are always willing to open the door if you come bearing a plate of Blueberry Lemon Cream Cheese cookies.  Yum!  One of our family favorites.  But, wait.  There's more.  I was feeling pretty good about my idea to take a baked item to the church women on their birthday.  It would help me find out (1) where they lived, (2) connect a face to a name, (3) make some of those Pinterest goodies, AND (4) not eat the whole pan of dessert.  Instead of a Two-for deal, it's a Four-for offer.  Genius.  

My first recipe was Paula Deen's Lemon Bars.  Paula doesn't seem like she would be one of those cooks who leaves out a secret ingredient when sharing a recipe, so it must have been my doing. The bars were yellow, lemony and yummy, but also runny.  Good enough to taste at home, but not gift worthy.  On to Round Two - Brookies [Brownies + Cookies].  They looked good out of the oven, but on the first bite I realized I had forgotten to add the chocolate chips!  Argh.  Still tasted okay, but they didn't present themselves well on a paper plate.  So far, I'm 0-2 and the calories are adding up.  Mr. B took the brookies to work, and the salesmen liked them and said I could make some more.

With Plan A and B flopping, I moved to Plan C . . . Bundtlets from Anything Bundt Cakes.  Always a winner and always ready.  The hard part is deciding which flavor to get.

I haven't given up on my plan.  Everyone loves to be remembered.


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